Healthy Mental & Emotional growth

For healthy mental and emotional growth, we need a gentle, skillful, balanced approach, avoiding extremes.

If we are becoming arrogant and self-important, the antidote is to think about our own problems and sufferings, to bring us down to earth.

But if we are feeling overwhelmed, discouraged, helpless and depressed, it’s important to reflect on our positive qualities or achievements to uplift our minds. ~ His Holiness The 14th Dalai Lama

Meditation Should Be Joyful

When explaining meditation, the Buddha often drew analogies with the skills of artists, carpenters, musicians, archers, and cooks. Finding the right level of effort, he said, is like a musician’s tuning of a lute. Reading the mind’s needs in the moment—to be gladdened, steadied, or inspired—is like a palace cook’s ability to read and please the tastes of a prince.

Collectively, these analogies make an important point: Meditation is a skill, and mastering it should be enjoyable in the same way mastering any other rewarding skill can be. The Buddha said as much to his son, Rahula: “When you see that you’ve acted, spoken, or thought in a skillful way—conducive to happiness while causing no harm to yourself or others—take joy in that fact and keep on training. ~ Thanissaro Bhikkhu

This daily dharma came to me today and as always, was right on time.

Most of the time, we feel like we should be ‘the best’ or dare I say it, ‘perfect,’ from the start of anything we attempt to do.

Those feelings of ‘should be’ keep us from learning, growing, and becoming the true person we are.

Meditation is a skill (as stated above). So how can I expect to be ‘good’ at anything if I do not practice?

It takes Practice.

Our words hurt or heal….& a link to a great blog post

Precious Metal Blog – I wasn’t going to weigh in on the shooting in Tucson, AZ because… Use your voice like a BIG BOY!!!

My comment:

“Thank you for the great post.

Yes, for a long time now, we just say whatever…and do not think that our words take root in someone’s mind…well, folks words hurt or heal.
Somewhere along the path of this very perturbed individual, someone’s words hit a mark in him…gave him a reason to focus his violent thoughts into a target.
And now…we have a sad and horrible situation. Of which no one wants to take responsibility of creating because …’they are only words, no one would possibly think to do anything violent’….as PM says….use your words ‘like a big boy/girl’ …all of our words matter….if they did not matter why would we use them?

May all sentient beings be happy and have the causes of happiness.

May all sentient beings be free from suffering and the causes if suffering.

May all sentient beings never be separated from the happiness that is free from suffering.

May all sentient beings abide in equanimity, free attachment and detachment.”

Human nature is essentially compassionate and gentle

It is my firm conviction that human nature is essentially compassionate and gentle.That is the predominant feature of human nature.

Anger, violence, and aggression may arise, but on a secondary or more superficial level; in a sense, they arise when we are frustrated in our efforts to achieve love and affection. They are not part of our most basic, underlying nature. ~ His Holiness The 14th Dalai Lama